Feeling like a failure. Some people say this is what they fear most. I’ve been in situations which some people might deem “failure”, for example, having to leave a job because it was too stressful, and in the last few months I have also been faced with the threat that I could officially “fail” my first year of teaching.
Feeling as if I was failing at work was demoralising, humiliating, frustrating, and depressing. When you put your all into something and you don’t get the return on your investment, you can feel like life has failed you, and/or that you have failed at life. Failure can be especially hard to take if you have never really struggled before, or if you have been consistently high-achieving. Being faced with the possibility that you are not perfect, that you are fallible, that actually you can’t achieve everything with relative ease, can be a difficult discovery to make.
But failure is what you make it. It can make or break you. You can wallow in humiliation and devastation, or you can learn from it, reassess the situation and try again.
In the last few weeks, I have managed (so far) to turn a dire and failing situation around. With resolve and commitment, and trying some new approaches, I have actually received some positive feedback where a few weeks ago I was receiving nothing but criticism. This is a small success, but I’m not going to do it down. Out of failure, I created success.
Life goes through patterns, rolling ups and downs, and when you hit a down, it can feel that you have hit rock bottom. But if you get in that situation, have faith that you will be due an “up” any time soon 😉 Keep going.
Now for some quotations for you (and me!) to remember in those times of need!
“Every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success” Napoleon Hill
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely” Henry Ford
“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm” Sir Winston Churchill
“There is no failure except in no longer trying” Elbert Hubbard
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Thomas Alva Edison
“Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail” Confucius
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default” J. K. Rowling.